11 Subtle Signs Your Family Doesn't Like Your Spouse

You can tell that your family doesn't like our spouse if they only stop by when you are home alone. They love and want to spend time with you, but if they loved your significant other as well, they wouldn't only show up when your partner is not around.

When your spouse walks through the door, your family smiles politely and immediately says their goodbyes. You have to decide which is worse, having them stay and create an uncomfortable situation, or letting them leave and keep the peace in your home.

Sometimes your family is forgetful, as in the time all the guys went fishing but no one bothered to ask your husband to join, or when you were invited to a lady's only baby shower but your aunt didn't remember to include your wife on the invitation. Other times they straight-up tell you that your spouse is not invited. Robin Abrahms of the Boston Globe advised, "if your family is discomfited because Spouse is of a different race or the same sex or has a disability, then make your loyalties clear: You won’t belong to any club that won’t have Spouse as a member."

"Remember Steve? That boy you dated in the ninth grade? I heard he's a doctor now." Bringing up your former flames' current accomplishments is a passive-aggressive way cut down your current partner. This is also a way to try to make you wonder if you made the right choice.

It's no fun to see a Facebook notification letting you know that your mom "liked" a photo of your ex showing off six-pack abs at the beach, but even worse to hear they've been texting or meeting for coffee. This is especially true if your mom hasn't made the effort to hang out with your current spouse. Lisa Marie Wilson wrote in Huffington Post that her own family chose her ex over her after their separation.

You will know what your parents think of your marriage if they compare your children to your spouse only when they are being unruly. Otherwise the kids came out just like your side of the family.

If your dad keeps trying to set you up with someone from the office, or your mom doesn't stop talking about Edith's son who is "such a catch" even after you're engaged, there is a pretty good chance they don't approve of your soon-to-be spouse. Make sure to nip that in the bud before you tie the knot.

They talk about how hard you work. They do this to imply that because you're the main breadwinner, your spouse must be lazy. They will mention how smart your are when they know your spouse didn't go to college. Dr. Hartwell-Walker told Psych Central that if you're happy with your arrangement you should "tell your parents in no uncertain terms to get over it." she also recommends that if they bring it up again, you should remind them that it’s their issue, not yours, and then change the subject.

Your spouse graduated with a Master's degree? Oh.

Your spouse just got a promotion? How much does it pay? That little, huh?

Your spouse is the Commander In Chief: Another Democrat.

Is your partner the wallflower at family parties? Don't be surprised if you start having to come to events alone. No one likes to be ignored. If your family isn't willing to pay attention to your spouse, make sure that you do.

Your family expects you to attend every holiday with them. When you tell them that you have plans to spend the holiday with your spouse's family, they clearly get upset. Not respecting the time you spend with your in-laws is a sign they don't respect your spouse either.