13 Traits Every Grown Ass Woman Should Look For In A Partner, Cuz You Don't Want No Scrub

It's easy to say you won't be with someone who's unemployed, but that's not always a black and white scenario. Focus less on your partner's job (or lack thereof), and pay attention to a bigger word — ambition. If your partner doesn't have it, then they shouldn't have you. And even more important? They have to be working towards those ambitions. TLC said a scrub is someone who's, "always talking 'bout what he wants, but just sits on his broke ass." Keep it in mind.

I don't believe that a partner should be your everything or that you should change yourself for your SO, but I do think they should bring out the best in you. They should encourage you to chase your dreams, give you that extra confidence boost to go for it, and help bring you back down to earth when you've lost your cool for the hundredth time. You need a partner that makes you want to be a better person.

Life is going to throw some obstacles at your relationship and you need someone who can roll with the punches by your side. A sense of humor is all the armor you two need. If your SO can't see the funny side of a situation or laugh at themselves when it's all too much, then ain't nobody got time for that.

Life may be too busy to get together as often as they'd like, but your SO should definitely have some friends. Not only does it show you the type of company they keep (If they're hanging with a bunch of d*uches, well then...), but it can also give you a sense of their loyalty and dependability as a person.

If your partner doesn't appreciate you, then they are most definitely out. You don't need roses every time you make them dinner or a gift once a month, but a simple "thank you" can do wonders for your own self-esteem and self-worth. Find someone who appreciates you and is grateful for all that you do.

Whether it's a game of tennis or Scrabble on a Saturday night, you need a partner that can handle losing a game or two. If not, that competitiveness can turn into a tendency to control and leave you wondering where it all went wrong. The minute your SO loses it because you beat them in poker is the day you call it quits.

When your partner's personality complements yours, magic is bound to happen. You don't have to be exactly the same or polar opposites, either. It's more yin and yang, creating a healthy balance. Maybe you're a big time dreamer and your SO is able to keep your head firmly planted in the ground while letting your mind float to the clouds. When the personalities complement each other, you both know how to help the other person, how to keep them calm, and how to give them the perspective you need.

I get that certain situations may lead a person to have to cut ties with family members, but if they don't understand that family is important and part of a happy, healthy life, then they won't understand your own beliefs on it.

You're more than welcome to ask your SO for their opinion on something you're doing or considering, but no matter what their response is, they should respect you and your choices. You don't need someone belittling your ideas or actions. You need someone who is proud to stand beside you and respectful of all that you do and are.

I'm a mom, so no matter how hard my boyfriend and I plan date nights or weekend getaways, there's a good chance something with my daughter will come up and change everything. I'm incredibly grateful that my guy is so understanding of the situation and is never resentful, angry, or irritated when Alice has to join us for dinner or our middle-of-the-night fun is interrupted by her cries. You deserve the same in a partner.

If your SO won't stand next to you in front of everyone they know and say, "This is the person I love," then what are you doing with them? They should be proud to be with you, proud of the person you are, and proud that you love them, too.

Your SO is going to get irritated with you some days, this is just a fact. And some days you two are going to fight and bicker and drive each other crazy. But your partner should never talk down to you. They should never make fun of your ideas, call you names, or make you feel less than the incredible person you are. Ever.

When you've had a bad day, when you need comforting, or when you're just ready to chill and relax, your SO should feel like home. Nobody wants to dread seeing their partner, and if they don't put you at ease and make you feel better, then they are most definitely a scrub.

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