18 Things Men Do In Bed That Women Don't Like

One of the things that women want men to know about sex is that there's no need to make it last an entire hour. After 20 minutes, a woman is probably just as tired and hungry as a man is, so no need to make sex for a really long time. Nobody wants to get sore here.

Yes, it's true. Women can be quite noisy in bed, but they also appreciate it when a man makes some noise too. It's totally cool for everyone and anyone being loud and proud in the bedroom, and definitely a sure-fire way for ladies to know if men are enjoying what's happening if they actually are vocal about it.

Plenty of women enjoy nipple play as part of overall foreplay, but sometimes men just don't stop. One thing some women simply don’t enjoy is when men treat their nipples like popsicles and suckle as if they're breastfeeding. This is not sexy. Some gentle licking and sucking can be spectacular, but most women say men should not act as if they are trying to milk their partners.

It might be a small point, but a man who keeps his socks on in bed can be a serious mood killer for women.

“It’s just not visually attractive,” Monica Lieser, a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-author of 14 Days of Foreplay told Men's Health. “You look like a toddler — and clearly, we don’t associate that with sexuality in any way.”

Here's the truth that men sometimes try to overlook: Yes, foreplay really is that important. It's absolutely mandatory and men shouldn't even consider it a separate part of sex. It's part of sex, period.

There's nothing wrong with using your fingers in bed — in fact, it can be very enjoyable. But simply pumping fingers in and out often doesn't do it for women. Using a finger's flexible joints and dexterity actually gives men the opportunity to do things that a penis can't, such as circles and soft motions that are preferable to poking.

Sure, it's fun and sexy to take instructions from your partner in bed. But sometimes a man can take it too far and end up being overly commanding instead. There’s a difference between taking the reins and being controlling. And telling a woman to "cum for me" can be interpreted as “just do it, already” and completely throw off her orgasm.

If a woman is taking the time to tell her partner exactly how to get her off, the partner should follow her instructions to a tee.

Some women have an area of their body that they don't like to have touched. If a man consistently tries to play with a sensitive spot that causes a woman discomfort, then that is a very annoying mistake and can cause their partner to immediately shut down.

Don’t assume that just because a woman is on her period, sex is off the table. It obviously depends on the person’s personal preference, but a lot of people don’t have any qualms about it.

Men who go for anal without proper notice and preparations are not well-liked by women. Butt stuff can be truly great and there are plenty of women who enjoy anal sex, but nobody enjoys being surprised and poked, especially without lubricant.

One of the rudest things that a man can do in bed is try to talk a woman out of using a condom. Even though sex might feel better without a condom, life is better without STDs and unplanned pregnancies.

The woman on top sex position is a sexy for women, since they get to control what happens and the depth of penetration. But as much as women love the sexual power of being on top, participation is key — she still wants an engaged partner who will communicate what is working and what is not working.

Sex toys can be a wonderful addition to a couple's sex life, but a man who feels personal offense to a woman bringing a vibrator into the bedroom is simply not sexy. Women want men to embrace trying sex toys in bed since a vibrator can improve your orgasm during sex. That's a win-win for everyone.

This is possibly of the most important pieces of advice you might get: No two women want the exact same thing in bed. It's important to be able to talk to your partner about their likes and dislikes, and have them listen to yours.

Nobody wants empty promises and a man claiming that he is a bonafide sex god can definitely be a turn off. It's not that women don't want to hear that their lover is good, but it's unrealistic (and simply not attractive) when a man promises a woman the best sex of her life — especially if they don’t deliver on the promise. In fact, staying humble is sexier — and gives you and your partner the opportunity to work on actually improving your sex lives together.

Is afterplay a thing? Perhaps not, but it should be in cases that a woman doesn't get off during sex but the man does. What does that mean? If the man came and the woman did not, he still has time to correct the situation. There's no time like the present to ask her what she still needs to get her there, and then do it.

Springing dirty talk on a woman unexpectedly can do more harm than good. Sure, saying something in a moment of passion is totally fine but upping the ante when she didn't see it coming might come off as more of a shock than sexy. Ease into it — or even better, have a conversation with your partner about how they feel about dirty talk in advance.