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By necessity, sex changes when there’s a pregnant partner involved. Not only is there a newly expanding belly to navigate around, but certain positions or activities may become uncomfortable for the pregnant person. And, of course, straight, cisgender couples are not the only people who get pregnant and have babies. Lesbian couples, or other couples where both partners have vaginas, also have to learn to adapt to this new situation and figure out the best pregnancy sex positions for same-sex couples. Because pregnancy sex isn’t just for cishet folks.
Now that scissoring is off the table due to your ever-expanding belly, you may be wondering how on earth you’re going to figure out how to get frisky. But fear not, because there are plenty of other orgasmic positions for you and your partner to explore. In talking to Shanna Katz, board certified sexologist and author of Lesbian Sex Positions, I learned that the best positions are really “anything that feels good for you.” She stresses the importance of not getting in positions that put too much pressure on the pregnant partner’s abdomen, but beyond that to “do what feels right.”
1Pillows Are Your Friend
Katz recommends investing in tons of pillows. “I'm talking wedges, bolster rolls, round poofs, whatever,” she says. Pillows can be used to support various parts of your body, from swollen feet to round bellies. “I tell people it is kind of like restorative yoga," Katz says. "Get comfortable, place pillows under everything so that you don't have to expend any effort in keeping your body in that position, and go for it.”
2Do It Doggy Style
Rear entry can be a nice option for getting around a pregnant stomach. Katz recommends placing a pillow under the belly for support if necessary.
3Spooning Is A Great Go-To
This always-popular pregnancy sex position doesn’t discriminate — it’s great for most bodies. The side entry position helps avoid a too-deep penetration that could be uncomfortable on a pregnant person’s cervix.
4Pull Out The Toy Box
“Sex toys made of body safe materials, like medical grade silicone, are safe for pregnancy use," says Katz. She does, however, caution people to be careful when using hard toys made from materials like glass, metal, or ceramic to avoid pushing too hard and bruising the cervix.
5Oral Sex Is Where It’s At
Penetrative sex is not the end all and be all of sex. “Don't forget that oral sex can be fantastic," Katz reminds us. "Especially for someone not wanting to expend a lot of energy.”
6Get On Top
If it feels good, “there is nothing wrong with folks who want to climb on top,” notes Katz. This position can be a great way to avoid putting pressure on your bump, too, and for really celebrating your pregnant body in all its glory.
