9 Signs You're Not As Sexually Satisfied As You Think

One way to know if you're not quite satisfied with your sex life is if you are getting easily distracted during sex. Although distraction is common, particularly when stressed, certified sex therapist and owner of Cleveland Relationship Therapy Ashley Grinonneau-Denton tells Romper that you ask yourself a few pointed questions about why exactly your mind is wandering:

• Where is my mind going?
• What is taking my attention away?
• What could make this more exciting?

If you're not communicating outside of the bedroom, then it's unlikely you are as fully satisfied as you could be. Certified sex therapist and author of Playtime: A Guide to Sexual Conquests for Women Amanda Pasciucco tells Romper that this may be because open communication is crucial to sexual satisfaction between partners.

"If you tell your partner what you like, physically, emotionally, and intellectually, when it comes to sex, you usually are sexually satisfied," she says. "Sexual satisfaction comes when you are fulfilled in all of these ways. It is the connection of your body to feelings of pleasure."

Other than good communication, another thing that you have to keep in mind if you want to be sexually satisfied is being mindful of your body and needs, clinical sexologist and best-selling author of Mastering Multiple Position Sex Eric Marlowe Garrison explains to Romper. Although honesty is important for communication, being mindful is crucial to understanding your own body's needs — and how you're feeling. He also recommends that couples stay mindful of what each other is feeling as well, since you need both partners for true sexual satisfaction.

If you find yourself taking more solo trips than ever, or fear that your partner is doing the same, then the truth is that you might be sexually unsatisfied deep down. Licensed psychologist, certified sex therapist, and the co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes Dr. Rachel Needle tells Romper that masturbating more may be an indicator that you are looking for other ways to feel sexy and sexual outside of the time you spend connecting with your partner in the bedroom.

Another way to identify that you are sexually unsatisfied, according to Needle, is that you're more irritable than ever. If you find your partner constantly joking about how you're turned into Grumpy and wondering what the matter is when nothing in life seems to be going wrong, then you might unhappy in the bedroom. Even your friends might begin to notice your sour mood after a while.

Grinonneau-Denton says that another sign of sexual unsatisfaction is simply that feeling where something is "off" and you're not sure what it is.

"Chances are, however, that whether or not physical signs are offering any clues, your emotional self is probably driving 'the something isn't right train'," she says. "When sex becomes routine, it is quite understandable that something might seem off."

A sign of being sexually unsatisfied that is very subtle is leaving the bed shortly after being sexual with your partner. If the first thing you want to do after being intimate with your partner is leave them again, then there might be a problem, Needle says. This is likely the result of you looking to disconnect from your partner by putting your energy into other areas of life. Getting up and out of bed is not only a sign of further distraction in your sex life, but it's also a sign that you are not satisfied.

Although it's normal for fantasy to play a role in your sex life, constantly fantasizing about others may be another sign that you are sexually unsatisfied, according to Pasciucco. This is a mental symptom of being unsatisfied and can also manifest itself by you feeling disappointed in yourself and in your partner. If you can't keep your mind on the person you're right, that may indicate an issue.

Pasciucco also tells Romper about one very dangerous emotional sign of sexual unsatisfaction: withholding sex from your partner. Although you might get upset with your sexual partner and begin to resent or ignore them, withholding sex from them because you are sexually frustrated is a clear sign that something simply isn't right in your relationship.